6.Ibrahim Tatlises: A phenomena

After I watched the documentary Tough Guise I had to mention about him. He is a good example for the view of media about masculinity in Turkey.
He is well known and loved man. He is an idol for various social classes but specially for many typical -mostly lower classed- Turkish man because he also came from same root to higher level. He is powerful, has money, has woman and also dominance them. We can find many important elements (and misunderstandings) about manhood in him.
He is known by his striking relationships with women. He is even accused by that he made one of his ex-girlfriends (who was also a belly dancer in his tv show) shot. When I google about their past relationship, I found more than I thought. He even threw her framed photos on floor in his show and shouted about how disrespectful she was. (By the way he becomes absurdly funny when he gets angry ‘show-off’ ) That was a few years ago, but less than a year ago he insulted another woman in front of many audience in a live tv show of his own. He told that she would be a prostitute if he didn’t give her a hand. That was an amazingly awkward situation, because she didn’t tell anything insulting or defensive before these humiliation. (I watched the full argument between two and amazed more; because he had given a didactic speech about how he is protective and kind however she was rude for warning him for not to interfere her while singing. For the video click.) Luckily some programmes and discussions been made on the psychological violence against women but society quickly accepted it as one of his little mistakes. It’s forgotten now.
But people have to think twice about his attitude, he was accusing her for not respecting the societies culture (while doing it he was talking in his eastern accent-my guesses for more sympathy-). He talked about how he is respectful and he also respects the elder. He even says that he is very sorry to hear her words that he could cry!! But right after that he gets immediately furious and tells how he saved her from pimps!!!
I can’t think of the reaction of men who takes him as a role model. They accept his attitude probably good for women, surely he was giving her a lesson. Because he is a very “kind man” . This is one of the misunderstandings on Turkish culture. Males feel like they have to be tough and protective and when it is needed, didactic towards women. Even it contains humiliating them. That’s also explain how responsibles of domesticated violence reason themselves.

I can't belive, I had so much to say. I couldn't stop myself. I hope you will be patince enough to finish it. Thank you anyways : ) .